Do We Need Couples Coaching?
Getting couple's coaching can save and/or strengthen your relationship. That is, of course, if the couple does not wait too long to seek help. Some wait too long because they assume coaching is for couples with major issues or as a hail-Mary to save a completely broken relationship.
Fortunately, that is all changing and couples coaching is becoming much more mainstream. With so many famous individuals and couples turning to and benefiting from couples’ coaches, it's no wonder its popularity is rising so fast.
So, if you've considered speaking with a third party for relationship advice, here's another reason to see a couple's coach soon, it actually works. Even if you haven’t talked to your partner about couples coaching yet, but think it might help your relationship, it can be a good idea to seek a consultation.
Consider seeking couples coaching in Omaha if…
Your partner wants to get some coaching
You should address your partner's request if they have already asked you to go to counseling. It takes a lot of courage to look for or ask for help with relationship issues. If your partner is interested in working things out, it is worth considering. The fact that they asked you shows that they are. They must think it's important for you both as a couple. You may or may not have the same faith in coaching, but your partner believes it is valuable. It is important to respect their request and commitment, so they know you believe the relationship still has value. Give it a try and see the difference it can make for you both.
You are thinking about having (or had) an affair
If you’re even considering having an affair while in a monogamous relationship, then something is off. Plus, if you’ve been involved in an affair already, there are definitely reasons to talk about it.
Experiencing the aftermath of a spouse's infidelity is deeply traumatic for the mistreated party. If you are considering unburdening this information onto your partner, talk to me first. You have betrayed your partner and yourself, but it does not mean your relationship is over. But it's far more likely if you drop that onto your loved one's head and heart the wrong way.
If you just learned that your spouse was unfaithful, come and get a new set of eyes on the situation before you make any unwise decisions. I cannot promise that I can keep you both together, or guarantee to separate you both, but I absolutely can help you both accomplish your mutual goals, whatever they are.
You and your partner are sexually misaligned
It is becoming widely understood in academic circles that all individuals experience sex completely differently. Couples, on the other hand, are just discovering this fact. Everything from an individual’s desires to the expected frequency, ideas, beliefs, understandings, and approaches to sex vary dramatically. In every relationship, these variations are likely to cause confusion, contention, frustration, and an overall communication breakdown. Coming to couples coaching together to talk about sex can be incredibly rewarding for your intimacy, sex life, and relationship!
You are considering a separation or a divorce
Every single couple considering getting separated or divorced should talk to an objective, trained, and highly skilled couple’s coach. This is because a coach can help you decide the next best step for your relationship. In coaching, we call this discernment coaching. Discernment coaching is a short series of sessions that guide you and your partner through focused conversations and exercises that help you both decide whether or not you want to call it quits or stay together and work on your relationship.
You are about to get married or go through a big life change
You may have been in a relationship with someone for a long time but getting married can still feel like a major life change and commitment. Deciding on premarital coaching helps couples start married life off on the right foot before their big day. Before tying the knot, is the best time to set boundaries, express, and hear each other's expectations for the relationship.
Major life changes from a new marriage are worthy of discussion. This situation often establishes the formation of stepfamilies. Blending and merging two or more families is a big shift for everyone, and as individuals, every family member will deal with those changes in their own way. Couples coaching can help you discuss ways to generate respect between stepfamily members, establish and build mutual trust, define your new living arrangements, and learn about differences in the various ways of co-parenting.
You address the same patterns or issues again and again
Are you and your partner feeling like a broken record? It is necessary to get to the root of the problem if you and your partner want to stop the cycle. Often, couples aren't aware of their problems until they are brought up by their partner or a third party. If you want to identify and address the problems you and your spouse wrestle with constantly, then couples coaching can help.
You constantly fight without any resolution
Believe it or not, there is a healthy way to “fight.” Remember, it’s natural to disagree in a relationship. After all, you are two unique individuals. But if your disagreements consistently devolve into unproductive fights, you may want to look for support. Come to couples coaching with Aaron Jarrels in Omaha to learn how to communicate your needs, listen, and respond respectfully to one another. Even when you think you might get mad. These skills will help you resolve conflict -without the relationship-damaging resentment and anger.
You feel like your partner doesn’t get you
Do you ever feel like your partner isn’t truly listening to you? Do they accuse you of not hearing or understanding them? Then the two of you are not communicating your needs well. The communication skills you learn at couples coaching—like empathy, active listening, and conflict resolution—can significantly improve your relationship in both the short and long term. Find out how what you didn't know was in fact hurting you and your spouse.
You want a strong, satisfying, long-lasting, healthy relationship
Couples coaching is not just for troubled relationships! Find out what you are doing right and get better at it. It also provides couples the skills to build stronger, healthier, more supportive relationships. Learn what you need to know to feel satisfied with your marriage and happily grow old together.
What Does it Mean to be a “Couple”?
At first, the answer to this question seems obvious. But, in reality, the answer is far more complex and incredibly important that you explore it with your partner. To do this you might want to ask yourself and your partner some follow-up questions:
- Do you have the same definition of being a couple?
- Do you have the same expectations for one another in your relationship?
- Do you even have the same ground rules or expectations of what it means to be in a partnership?
If you answered “no” or even “I’m not sure” to any of these questions, then there is likely a misalignment in your relationship. That’s where couples coaching can help. By building communication skills as well as using your couple's coach as an objective listener, you will learn how to better understand one another's expectations. It is possible to get to the root of contention and challenges in a relationship.
Couples Coaching for the Win
Unfortunately, just being in love doesn’t mean you both have the same expectations. You both may not even be clear about what it takes to build a strong, healthy, and long-lasting relationship. That’s why asking each other this question is so important. Your coach will help you navigate challenging conversations and build up the skills you need to work together both inside and outside the therapist’s office.
What’s the Difference Between Couples Coaching and Marriage Coaching?
Although couples coaching and marriage coaching may sound like the same thing (and there are a lot of similarities), you may find that couples coaching, and marriage coaching have slightly different focuses and goals. In general, couples who are not married seek couples coaching and I reserve the term marriage coaching for couples who are or believe they are married. Your couple’s coach will work with you to understand the challenges you face and come up with the right plan to address them.
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More Resources for You and Your Partner
In our efforts to bring value to your life, or if you are not in the Omaha area, I have developed a series of worksheets to help you effectively improve your relationship. Dive into the series and discover how these resources can benefit you and your partner.
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