The shift you want, simply requires a new perspective and some special clarity
How I'll Provide You with the Clarity
To provide you with the clarity you need, I’ll introduce and explain the 3P’s (The Three Principles).
How I'll Provide You with the Perspective
To provide the perspective you need, I will lay out and describe the D3P (disassociated third-person perspective)
Gain Clarity Through the 3 Principles
There are three principles that explain the human condition and how we think. They are Mind, Thought, and Consciousness. The first of these is Mind. It is expressed in the fact that we are alive: Mind, is in essence, the energy of life. The second of these is Thought. It is our ability ato create both ideas and mental images from that energy. And the third is Consciousness. Simply put, it is our ability to experience what we believe is real (our perceived reality). All of us are thinkers; we are born thinking, and this allows us to make our way through life. The quality of our lives are determined by the quality of our thoughts. This is because it’s how we see and experience everything moment-to-moment.
When we become aware of these principles, it is an extremely freeing experience. It shatters the long-held attachment to the belief that we are stuck with any particular way of thinking. Think of it this way, we are NOT merely victims of circumstances or even of our past. But instead, we are in control of the way we experience life. Oh sure, life happens, it takes place around us every moment, but it is our thinking about what takes place, that defines our experiences. Our experiences are the result of our thinking and by extension our beliefs and state of mind.
An understanding of these principles allows us to see that our ‘feelings’ (or more accurately our state of mind), as an indicator of the quality of our thinking at that exact moment. This boldly stands in opposition to the previously held belief that our ‘feelings’ are the way we feel in response to actual reality. A stressed or negative state of mind produces a negative mood (emotional state of mind), which can lead to increased levels of tension, insecurity, and/or emotional discomfort. This discomfort can now be understood to be simply an indicator that we need to calm and quiet our current thinking.
As we learn to identify and trust our emotional state of mind, we can catch ourselves earlier and earlier in the process of negative thinking. This can reduce instances of getting stuck in a chronically stressful state of mind, anxiety, depression, or even worse. Recognizing the signal to quiet our thinking, we can let negative thoughts pass. As our minds slow down, our ‘feelings’ can change, and what we perceive as our reality changes as well. We then naturally regain our ability to address what is happening in our lives from a more hopeful and optimistic place.
Once we recognize that innate wellbeing and health is always constant and within our reach, we are able to navigate the myriad of variability of our thinking. Without allowing extremely negative thinking to frighten us or allowing excessively positive thinking to deceive us. This creates space for us to be grateful in moments of exhilaration and graceful in moments of distress. The understanding of the three principles empowers us to experience all of our thinking as a beautiful gift and a precious slice of life’s pie.
Listen to me explain my perspective of the 3 Principls:
Watch this for a Detailed Explanation of the 3 Principles
Gain Perception Through D3P (Dissociated 3rd-Person Perspective)
Using a third-person perspective to evaluate problems can be helpful because it allows you to look at a situation objectively and distance yourself from the emotions involved. This can help you gain clarity and perspective on the problem and can make it easier to identify potential solutions.
For example, if you are facing a personal challenge, such as a difficult relationship or a career setback, using a third-person perspective can help you see the situation as an outsider might, rather than getting caught up in your own emotions and subjective perspective. This can help you approach the problem more objectively and rationally, which can make it easier to come up with a plan of action.
Using a third-person perspective can also be helpful in group settings, such as in a team or a therapy group, as it can allow everyone to share their perspective and can facilitate more open and honest communication.
Overall, using a third-person perspective can be a useful tool for gaining clarity and perspective on problems and can help you identify potential solutions more effectively.
Here are a few additional reasons why using a third-person perspective to evaluate problems can be helpful:
It can help you identify patterns: Using a third-person perspective can help you identify patterns or underlying causes of a problem, rather than focusing on the symptoms. This can be especially helpful in situations where the problem is complex or multifaceted.
It can help you see the bigger picture: By looking at a problem from a third-person perspective, you can gain a broader view of the situation and consider how it fits into the larger context. This can help you see the problem in a different light and may lead to new insights and ideas.
It can help you avoid biases: Using a third-person perspective can help you avoid biases or preconceptions that may influence your perspective on a problem. This can be especially useful if you are dealing with a sensitive or emotionally charged issue.
It can help you communicate more effectively: Using a third-person perspective can also help you communicate more effectively with others, as it can make it easier to explain your perspective and ideas without getting caught up in personal emotions or subjective experiences.
Overall, using a third-person perspective can be a valuable tool for gaining clarity and perspective on problems and can help you identify and evaluate potential solutions more objectively.
My favorite and easy to remember trick: WWAS: (what would Aaron say?)
Whenever you are faced with something that seems overwhelming or difficult, ask yourself "what would Aaron say?" As soon as you ask it, the answer will become clear to you. This is not because I know the answer, but rather, you already do but you need to free your mind to imagine the situation from a disassociated 3rd-person perspective.
Listen to me explain my perspective on Disaccociated 3rd-Person Perspective
Watch this for a Detailed Explanation of the Dissacociated 3rd-Person Perspective
Now That You Have the Insight You Need, Here's What to do Next
I believe it is important to review a few things and touch on a few that you should probably know.
One Thought Away
The phrase "one thought away" suggests that a person is only a single thought away from something, typically implying that this something is within easy reach or can be easily attained. This phrase is often used to emphasize the power of thought in shaping one's circumstances and experiences.
For example, someone might say "You are only one thought away from happiness" to suggest that a person's happiness is largely determined by their thoughts and mindset, and that they have the power to choose to be happy by changing their thoughts. Alternatively, someone might say "You are only one thought away from success" to suggest that success is within easy reach and that it can be achieved by having the right mindset and focus.
Overall, the concept of "one thought away" highlights the idea that thoughts can have a significant impact on a person's experiences and outcomes, and that it is possible to change one's circumstances and attain certain goals by shifting one's thoughts and mindset.
Law of attraction
There is a theory called the "law of attraction" which suggests that a person's thoughts and beliefs can shape their reality. This idea is based on the premise that like attracts like, and that a person's thoughts and emotions can attract similar experiences and outcomes into their life.
According to this theory, a person's thoughts and beliefs can influence the actions they take and the decisions they make, which in turn can shape their circumstances and experiences. For example, if a person has a belief that they are not capable of achieving success, they may not take risks or pursue their goals with the same level of effort as someone who believes in their own abilities. As a result, their circumstances and experiences may be different from those of the person who believes in their own potential.
It is important to note that the relationship between thoughts and reality is complex and not fully understood. While it is true that thoughts and beliefs can influence behavior and decision-making, they are not the only factors that shape a person's reality. Other factors such as genetics, environment, and external circumstances also play a role in shaping a person's reality.
State of mind
A person's state of mind can certainly affect their interpretation of reality. Our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs can all influence the way we perceive and interpret the events and experiences in our lives.
For example, if someone is feeling anxious or stressed, they may be more likely to interpret situations as threatening or negative, even if they are not. On the other hand, if someone is feeling calm and positive, they may be more likely to interpret situations in a more neutral or positive light.
In this way, a person's state of mind can act as a filter through which they view the world, influencing the way they interpret and make sense of their experiences. It is important to be aware of this influence and to try to maintain a balanced and open-minded perspective, as our interpretation of reality can have a significant impact on our thoughts, emotions, and behavior.
Shifting from one state of mind to another
There are many ways to shift from one state of mind to another, and the most effective approach will depend on the specific state of mind you are trying to shift from and the state you are trying to shift to. Here are a few general strategies that may be helpful:
Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness is the practice of bringing your attention to the present moment without judgment. It can help you become more aware of your thoughts and emotions and can help you shift out of negative or unhelpful states of mind.
Engage in activities that shift your focus: Engaging in activities that require your full attention, such as exercise, art, or puzzles, can help you shift your focus and take your mind off of negative or unhelpful thoughts.
Practice relaxation techniques: Techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation can help you relax and shift into a more calm and centered state of mind.
Seek support: Sometimes, talking with a trusted friend or mental health professional can help you gain perspective and shift into a more positive state of mind.
It is important to keep in mind that shifting your state of mind is not always easy and may require practice and patience. It may also be helpful to try a variety of different strategies to find what works best for you.
Engage in activities that you enjoy: Doing things that you find enjoyable, such as hobbies or spending time with loved ones, can help you shift into a more positive state of mind.
Practice gratitude: Focusing on the things you are grateful for can help you shift your perspective and move out of negative states of mind.
Set achievable goals: Setting and working towards achievable goals can give you a sense of purpose and accomplishment, which can help you shift into a more positive and motivated state of mind.
Take care of your physical health: Taking care of your physical health, such as getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and exercising, can help you maintain a balanced and healthy state of mind.
It is also important to be patient and kind to yourself when trying to shift your state of mind. It is normal to have ups and downs, and it is okay to take the time you need to process your thoughts and emotions.
Having a coach is important
A coach can be a helpful resource in supporting you as you work to find your innate wellbeing for a number of reasons:
A coach can provide an objective perspective: A coach can help you gain perspective on your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and can offer an objective view of your strengths and areas for growth.
A coach can help you set and achieve goals: A coach can work with you to set realistic and achievable goals and can help you stay on track as you work towards these goals.
A coach can offer support and accountability: A coach can provide a supportive and nonjudgmental environment in which you can discuss your challenges and progress. They can also hold you accountable for your actions and help you stay motivated.
A coach can provide tools and strategies: A coach can help you develop new skills and strategies for managing your thoughts and emotions, and can provide resources and support as you work to find your innate wellbeing.
Overall, a coach can be a valuable partner in helping you identify and work towards your goals and can provide the support and guidance you need to succeed.
A coach can provide personalized support: A coach can tailor their support to your specific needs and goals, rather than following a one-size-fits-all approach. This can be especially helpful if you have unique challenges or goals.
A coach can help you identify and overcome obstacles: A coach can help you identify and overcome any obstacles or challenges that may be holding you back from reaching your goals. They can also help you develop strategies for dealing with these challenges in the future.
A coach can help you stay motivated and focused: A coach can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals, especially when you may be feeling discouraged or stuck. They can also help you celebrate your progress and accomplishments.
A coach can help you develop new skills and habits: A coach can help you develop new skills and habits that can support your success and help you achieve your goals.
Overall, having a coach can provide you with the guidance, support, and accountability you need to succeed in reaching your goals and finding your innate wellbeing.
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